fall / winter dating strategies

As the cold months approach is definitely important for you to replinish the

roster as you head into the cold months.  You have to break out some of

those secret recruiting tactics to make sure you have a team that will take

you through until next summer.



The first thing you have to do is play the numbers and learn from the

mistakes of others.  For example, take this past interation of the US

Olympic basketball team.  What we should all learn from this is that you

will go nowhere with a team full of wannabe superstars.  Role players are

essential to the success of the team.



Pick a region of operation.  If you don't go to the club, no worries.  You

can do just as much macking in the bookstore/library/bus/on the street as

you can in a club, it might be a little more difficult without the

assistance of liquor, but you can still get the job done and come up on AT

LEAST three fresh recruits.  But pick a place, become familiar with it, know

the staff so you can comfortably work without distractions.



Next, at this point you have to remember that the rule is quantity first,

quality second. Basically, you want to get as many macks in as possible

while you still can and sort the shit from the shinola later on. If you

waste your time tryna talk to 8's and up, you're gonna miss out on some 7's

that can run just as good through the cold months.



Prioritise your position players.  If you've had a good one or two from the

summer, keep them around and build your team around them, the rest of your

summer squad can get waivers or bumped up to front office positions.  Or you

could send them overseas to play somewhere in the minor leagues, but you

want to keep them working hard and under the assumption that they can get

called up at any time.  Don't drop your whole squad at one time on some

Denver Nuggets circa 1999 shit, you'll wind up a big loser.  If October

comes and you still don't have two, time to lower your standards.



MOST IMPORTANTLY, let all members of the roster know that the team comes

first.  Lying breeds drama, so it is essential that everyone is on board

with the mission statement. If there is one who is not down for the

concept,you have to let her go. You may even suggest she go if you sense her

hedging on the team concept. This will also help you keep a clean

conscience.



Next, you have to be somewhat discerning in your selections so that if any

two women should meet they are mature enough to handle the situation with

some decorum if not grace.  One way to ensure this is to make sure all are

of the same quality so one member of the squad doesn't get picked on by the

others. If you trash one the others are trash by association so make sure

they are all worthy of your respect (doesn't mean equal time, though).



Possibly you could pull off the sympathy thing for the one that gets picked

on by the others, but this takes advanced skills and shouldn't be tried if

you don't have the ability to keep her from becoming 'the needy one'.  This

is a maneuver that should only be attempted if you have tried, failed and

learned from this mistake in the past.  Otherwise, it is just not worth the

risk.



Lastly, it is too damn early in the Christmas season to narrow the roster

down quickly.  That task should not even be contemplated until january 2. 

Or you run the risk of ending up at some weird family's house being

introduced as the "B" word.



~C



CD of the moment: Marvin Gaye - "Here My Dear"